1. Allow yourself to be sad…
For some people being sad it is so unpleasant that it is not allowed. Even with the discourse of “he / she does not deserve it” can prevent flow naturally our feelings, and this is absolutely necessary. In a break is a loss not only for the couple but also a lifestyle. It is important to allow yourself to feel and take the loss. Strive to be well does not allow you to process what you’re experiencing and also involves an emotional drain to force you to not feel; you may even take decisions that do not feel very proud afterwards.
2. Do not let the sadness occupy too…
Before I told you that you allow yourself to be sad, but this is not the sadness overwhelm you and drag you into a pit of desolation. You have to manterte active. Sadness is sometimes a little “tricky”, invites you to stay at home, no fix, without eating or eating improperly, even changing your sleep habits and hygiene. Follow this path will never make you out of sadness, but it fall into a dangerous spiral of self-destruction.
3. Meet your people…
As explained in which you feel comfortable is the new situation and how you feel, but do not let it monopolize the conversation take an interest in what your friends are, what interesting new in their lives, etc. Try to distract them, listen his jokes and laugh if you want.
4. Do not idolize…
Not when endiosarle or remember only the best moments with him / her. This is to be fair and understand that being or being the other person who ends the relationship, this was failing, something was wrong, or it may be cared of a toxic relationship . This is fairer than crush crush you or your partner think that you’re either good or it is the other.
5. Do not hate…
Think that is the worst person in the world or wish evil will not make you feel better. The only generates hate discomfort to the sufferer. Try to think about your welfare than your discomfort.
6. Think of yourself…
What would you like to do now? How would you like your life? Get to work at it. Concrete steps to achieve your goals and start as soon as possible. You have opportunity to make new activities and dreams addition to fighting to keep those you consider important in your life.
7. Accepts and takes away some people from the circle of your partner…
Try to be understanding and respectful of your friends and family. To you also like your people support you and sometimes it is difficult to support two after a breakup. Some might be positioned on your side and who is positioned in his. Try this will not do more harm than necessary and it understands that it is normal.
8. Forget the social networks…
At least temporarily. Through them you can get a level of information but surely put your imagination do the rest and a cruel and painful way. Better keep away from these sources if you want to get over the break as soon as possible. Avoid control your partner, it’s important to begin to focus on you.
9. Do not dramatize!
There is time to think about all that with which we are not satisfied, or at least also realize everything is going well in life. Any excuse can be good to make a drama.. also to see it as a growth opportunity.
Although sometimes we do not have clear how over a breakup, and as in any conflict situation, be patient and tolerant with yourself. Do not be a deadline to meet and do not despair if well spent time there remain moments of memory and melancholy. It is logical that this happens, because you’ve shared a long and very private experiences with this person but the day will come that the memory does not sting as much. If you have previous experience in breakups or loss of someone or something of value, you’ll know it so, keep it in mind.
If you still implement these guidelines, and if some time having elapsed not get overcome, please contact a psychologist to help you reinterpret this experience in a constructive way that allows you to move forward and overcome this pain.